What are some psychological facts about love?

 Love is a great feeling, it needs to be tried for atleast once in a lifetime. 

I am not talking about love after marriage or arranged marriage love or the love your parents would eventually choose for you, but about the love that you find for yourself in other person where you look at the person with all the flaws but still hold much more value to you, what you can see in her/him which others fail to see and the deeper level of acceptance of the fact that no matter what, that person will always be there for you in good or bad situations alike. 

It's often considered a  boy to be lucky if he is the first love of the girl, but what's even more luckier is when both are the first love of each other where both share a great bonding, have great communication compatibility and yes commitment. 

I often advice to people that love is love, there isn't any end point to. Nyle is the largest river in the world in Africa which starts from Mediterranean sea to the Atlantic ocean crossing 12 nations. Similar to this love can't have an end point, if you love some one it often becomes a stamp on our hearts. Like it's difficult to remove the stamp the same way its too much hard and painful to remove that person who you love from heart. That pain can either make you or break you. 

In our society still love is considered to be a taboo, its not accepted easily, the definition is love is  still meaningless for many people just for the matter of fact that it's not trustworthy, its a sign of bad discipline, and some times it will bring a bad name for you and your entire too. Parents are often decisive of what they want for their children be it education, clothes, food, permissions, even marriage and even love. What parents lack to think is that the ideology they think which has worked in their time in 90s will also work in this era of 2020. It's technically impossible for a bike of 90s era to run in 2020 coz the purpose, engine, roads, handling, are not same all the time. Similar their understanding of marriage may not work at this time also. 

2020 is full of technology, we are advancing in the field of technology and at the same time people are moving apart, closeness, understanding, communication, expectations, are all the issues people are facing today, more importantly almost all the couples are facing this problem where they are not even feeling related to the significant other person. Often being single with a mobile is much much better thing than to be tied to other person who just can't share that level of depth. 

The only way of depriving ourselves of technology is to be with the people who value us much. We tend to speak to people who aren't even related to us in a much better way than to our own parents who live under the same roof. 

Nevertheless trying for love is most important thing and when you find one then you'll not be the same person you were in past. It may not be necessary that every love should end up in marriage, in India especially things definitely won't happen as we want it to be. All we can do is enjoy the other person's presence and pray for the best and keep it best memories and time well spent. 

These all were the physical aspects of love with respect to others, but when we love there are many things which happen internally, in our own body and mind. Research suggests that the people who are in love are happiest, productive and tend to achieve their objectives quickly and early.

I happened to be loving a person who was way supportive in everything I did and yes most of my tasks and objectives which I wanted to achieve early on. Basis to this I started counseling people to find their love as early as possible and it will help you settle down in marriage and the most important factor is get clarity about life and how you want to lead it. Bill Gates the founder of Microsoft was once asked in an interview what's his secret to such enormous success he replied by saying, focus on one girl she'll help you achieve what you want and at the same time she'll also achieve it herself. Jeff Bezos of Amazon was asked how Amazon became so successful he replied by saying when he presented his idea to his wife she just said you have to try it without even knowing what internet is in 1994 and that helped in create Amazon to what it is today. In both these persons life they had one thing in common which was love helping them move as forward as possible and an enormous support of their wives who trusted them blindly only because they knew them they loved them without questions and if there wasn't any love between them then they'd have bombarded with questions which would yield to nothing. A simple idea and expression of thought to their loved wives went on to change the whole world which we live in today buying from Amazon and using Microsoft related computers and devices. Seen such power anywhere. It's no where, it's with the person who you love and yes love its that much important to be in love. In fact sex without love is also like a  simple task, its a same your manager asking you to work when you don't have interest to work. Love and sex go hand in hand, a simple touch of your loved one can be of a medicine which can cure your illness. People go into depression only because of fact that it didn't happened  the way we imagined the future. But there are hopes. 

Imagine this way where you are living in a tech savvy world where you can get connected to anyone to your loved one at the click of a button. Imagine the same situation 100 or 200 years back think about how they used to live having no hopes at all where you would not see a person for some weeks or months or years still people come back eventually sooner or later. This concept is known as true love, where the emotions remain to be same over the years even after getting separated and yet one day they are destined to love. 

This blog is about the psychological affects we feel while we are in love or love anyone. . This has been my experience and virtue to experience it with the person whom I value the most. Not to mention, you'll never be bale to experience these affects if yours in one sided or time pass love. Here it goes:

• You really love him/her right? Did I mention a name? No, I didn’t. But still, you thought of that person. It’s a typical psychological reaction.
• People generally prefer an attractive face over an attractive body when it comes to long-term relationships. However, when people are looking for a fling, the body will win over the face on the basis of physical attraction.
• When a man finds someone attractive, he may suck-in his gut, flex his muscles and take postures that make him appear taller and stronger
• The more you ignore the one you like, the more you will fall for them
• When a guy likes a girl, he’ll look her in the eye. When a girl likes a guy, she’ll look away.
• A woman who makes him “feel like a man” is the woman a man falls for.
• We are more attracted to people we choose to pursue and less attracted to those who pursue us. hen both of you pursue  each other things stop pursuing us. 
• Seeing a picture of the one you love can lower stress levels, pain levels, and help you heal faster if you are injured or sick, the same happen when you hold the hand too.
• Kissing helps us choose who we love, and it is a big player in maintaining long lasting love. It is.
• The one who cries with you in your pain can never leave you.
• Not speaking with the one you love for more than 48 hours can make you feel homesick. I am right now
• Just by looking in the eyes of a stranger more frequently can lead them and you, both fall in love.
• An online dating survey shows that being good with money will get you more dates than being hot
• Studies show that on average, a crush lasts only four months. If the crush still continues it means you are in love.
• Most of the people can’t make eye contact with their crush
• Making the decision so she doesn’t have to worry is always a great quality she respects.
• She will love you that much more if you remember the details about her hobby or passion, and genuinely care about what she is into.
• Men are psychologically turned on by women who wear red. The color red is strongly linked to desire and attraction.
• Giving a woman independence is a love paradox. The more independence you give her, the more she feels drawn to you.
• If a man truely loves he won't merely protect rather he will encourage his partner to be strong enough in order to fight back. 
• A woman truely in love with a man she will not ask credit and debit card details, she won't waste his money unnecessarily, rather she will try to save the maximum.
• In true love people brawl because they put their opinion distinctly. They never try to portray themselves as a sweetheart by telling sugar coated words.
• Love is not merely a hormonal effect in body , nor it affects only heart or mind. It affect the entirety of a person
• In true love you find more happiness in giving. Very less people understand this. 
• Talkative girls and silent boys make the best couples.
• Seeing a loved one automatically can raise your heart beat faster.
• A person who has never been in love before 23 or 24 years age is too judgmental and picky when it comes to their love life.
• Unexpected and unplanned stories of love last for a longer time.
• Appearance and Social Status doesn't matter at all if you have liked someone due to their good behavior or good personality.
• True love can wait for more than 10 years to get in a relationship with the one they love. Sometimes it's even more than 50 Years.
• The main reason behind depression is unsuccessful love stories.
• You always relate to a person you love with your best songs.
• People say that trust is very important in a relationship. But, it's a false concept. Time is the most important thing. With time grows the trust, friendship, you grow together, immense and inseparable bonds. To talk also you need certain energy that draws you to the person who can welcome, it's the not same with everyone, you can't discuss almost anything or everything with everyone or even a spouse it actually required high level of interest to which tends to bring them both back together otherwise it feels something is missing and that's the worst feeling to miss someone.
• Heartbreak after true love is equally painful as physical pain.
• The more you ignore the one you like the more you will fall for them.
• Most of the single person in teens are secret lovers or maybe one side lover as well who have crushes and just because of their families and others world they tend to stop themselves from expressing their feelings

• Being loved back by a person you love exactly feels like having butterflies in the stomach.

• Most of the time boys make the first move. But, if a girl does it then, believe me, no one can love you more than that girl. Unfortunate are the ones who get to leave that type of girl. That's me.

A word of advice to young people and who are in love, if you realize that you are loving someone with the same feelings, just get rid of the world and get married, do whatever you can runaway, fight back, convince etc whats in your capacity but keep in mind one thing having a stable job, skils, right attitude who can adjust to any situations, and more importantly who wants to go far in life be it girl or boy never leave those people, coz even after marriage you've to live the life as marriage is just not an end point, it's like petrol which gives your bike extra mileage going farther. Never miss this type of person. For marriage in love no one will support you only your skills, education and willingness to do almost anything can help you. Nothing else. 
 

Find your love live your dreams or get shattered.